The baggage of patience of a man in relation to his girlfriend is truly unlimited. He is ready to endure her monthly and sometimes daily whims and tantrums, to let her choose places for hanging out, and even suffers all of her dubious surroundings, which include spiteful girlfriends, intrusive ex-boyfriends and, of course, a painfully curious future mother-in-law.
For his wisdom and endurance, often a man does not receive even a bit of respect and understanding from his beloved. In addition, she uses various manipulation techniques to force him to do his will, whether it be breaking dishes, tears or innocently built eyes.
How can a modern man recognize that he “warmed a snake on his chest” and that it would be time to get rid of her as soon as possible. Consider 10 clear arguments that you and your woman are unhappy.
10. Often lies
In fact, this symptom does not even need comment. Women often fantasize in their minds various events, and so clearly that they themselves begin to believe in them. If during communication you feel obvious tension and rejection inside, then know that you are being stubbornly led by the nose, making you believe in the facts "convenient" for her. Especially beware of lies about pregnancy - many girls speculate on this issue in order to "better off" sell themselves married.
And do not forget about the non-verbal signs of lies: protective poses, aggressive lunges running from side to side of the eye, averted look to the side, dilated pupils, sweating and a breaking voice. As a rule, the truth is always said calmly and without emotion, as a person feels complete confidence in his innocence.
9. Requires money
What does that mean? To treat or not to treat, to give or not to give, to help financially or not - such actions should proceed solely on the initiative and sincere desire of a man. Do not let yourself be impressed by the “poor and unhappy” that without your sponsorship her life will be ruined and there will be no meaning in the relationship. Do not let yourself go shopping, where, having built a sponge with a bow, the “missus” will begin to look plaintively in the direction of the coat or ring she likes. In the end, if a woman does not even try to get a purse when paying for her own (we emphasize her own) purchases, then she needs to run away from her quickly and away.
Think about whether you will constitute at least some interest for your partner if you lose everything in an instant? Will she be ready to go to the most unpleasant job to support you in difficult times and feed your family?
8. Spends a lot of time with friends
Let's open a big secret - a woman doesn’t really need friends. Each of them instinctively sees a representative of her own gender as a competitor, in addition, this fact applies even to sisters. There is practically no honest friendship between women. All attempts to fade into a women's company more often are a desire to creep into another man. Pay attention to what your girlfriend puts on, going on a “walk” with her friends. Miniskirt, cocktail dress, top with a deep neckline and red lipstick? Hmm, I wonder which of her best friends will appreciate this outfit.
And the girls are going to fix mainly on rags and peasants, and if everything is fine with either one, then there is no need to hang out with “snakes”. Draw conclusions.
7. Bad habits
It is unfortunate that out of the wide selection of worthy girls, you are the one who has bad habits, is indiscreet in companies and undermines your authority in the eyes of friends and family. The saddest thing is that you manage to find excuses for her behavior, sometimes very stupid (for example, she is so sexy when she smokes; or after alcohol I can ask her about everything I want). You know, if you have such thoughts - you need to quit.
An adequate adult man, not a kid, will meet with a woman - in the future, the future wife and mother of the children. What kind of alcohol and cigarettes can we talk about? Note that profanity is also unlikely to have a beneficial effect on the family climate.
6. Never calls herself
Caring mothers and girlfriends got the girls in the head that a man should always call first, call on dates and put up. So she sits, all such a proud free bird, waiting for when you can succumb to her tricks.
In fact, if a woman really feels for you, she will do what she wants. And she wants, of course, to call and make peace, hug and kiss, call for a walk. Acting on the contrary from her desires, she undermines your relationship from the inside. Try to explain to your soul mate how important it is to express your feelings without fear of being intrusive or rejected.
If the girl stubbornly expects the first steps from you, then perhaps she is not yet ready for mature love.
5. Set an example to his mom
The best thing you can do in this situation is to pick up the girl from where you are at home and take him to hell. From childhood, mothers twirl children like puppets, limiting and adjusting their life paths. If you do not break the connection of the girl with her mother, then the latter will always be present in your relationship, and far from physically. Sooner or later, you will notice that the beloved begins to speak and act like a mother-in-law, to build you, like that of her husband. As a rule, such relations end with regular squabbles and mutual neuroses.
Prevent attempts to mention "mommy" in the bud at the beginning of the relationship. If the mother’s opinion is so authoritative for the girl that she is ready to quarrel with you for the sake of defending interests, then, alas, it is time to “make legs”.
4. Stopped looking after herself
We all understand that appearance is not the main thing, and strong marriage is far from being based on it. A loving man perceives his woman in any condition, whether it is crying, illness, old age or a dirty head. He will never look around and look for a replacement. But this does not mean that the missus should relax as much as possible and score on her appearance. In the end, initially you met one girl, and over time, this “angel” can grow fat at will, put on old and not very clean rags, flaunt the apartment with disgusting mud masks on her face and not try to take regular showers. This behavior speaks only about one thing - the girl achieved the desired goal from you (she moved, got married, became pregnant, etc.). A truly loving woman realizes that her beauty is an aesthetic delight for the man’s eyes. Therefore, she will always try to look well-groomed at home, and not in public.
3. Tells intimate details to girlfriends
As they say, whoever hurts, he says that. If a woman starts wagging everyone in a row about the details of your sex life, then she is clearly dissatisfied with the latter, experiences internal complexes and injuries. It is unlikely that this state of affairs will strengthen your relationship.
If a woman is expensive, try to find out why she had such a bright need to discuss intimate life. Show that she can always talk about it with you, without shyness and without worrying.
Well, if the desire to discuss the size of the genitals and the number of orgasms does not decrease, then this is banal boasting and frivolity, with which you obviously will not get along.
2. Modifies
Is it worth it to additionally indicate that treason is a direct reason for breaking the relationship once and for all. Betrayal, lies, secrecy, plod behavior - is it that reliable and strong families are built on this? Ask yourself, this is how your girlfriend should behave in the company so that the “male” wants to “jump up”. Do not listen to absolutely no arguments, like you were drunk, you were in a quarrel, wanted to take revenge, etc. Your woman purposefully and confidently found herself in that situation and in the place where she could change, which, in fact, did. And excuses for such a need should absolutely not interest you.
1. Comes out with a girlfriend
Some kind of kindergarten indeed! As it was found above, friendship between women is extremely unlikely. Accordingly, what mentally healthy woman will drag her rival girlfriend to share the attention of an interesting man. Girlfriend, you see, boring herself or problems in life? And for the sake of solving other people's problems, does your missus sacrifice the valuable time that you have found for interesting communication with her? The only thing when the presence of another at the meeting is justified is if the date is double. And then, it is necessary only for the initial pastime in order to relieve psychological discomfort. Then the couples should disperse and get to know each other better, create the necessary psychological microclimate.
If giggling girlfriends are faithful companions at every meeting, think about it, maybe you are hinted at by a threesome. Or the missus is not ready to have her own opinion about you and your relationship until the “caring” girlfriend speaks out. All this is very frivolous.
The above signs are not always an axiom in order to take and leave your girlfriend. Each situation is individual and requires more careful consideration. In most cases, the man’s inner voice always says exactly whether he needs such a partner or not. And it is very important to follow this voice without listening to rationalizations and arguments in the head.