Today, the ability to sincerely ask for forgiveness is a sign of a polite and well-mannered person. How to understand what it is worth asking for forgiveness for, and what is better to ignore? You need to remember 10 things that you should not apologize for in any situation.
10. Expression of emotions
At some points, it is difficult to contain grief or joy within yourself. Therefore, a person begins to laugh and literally jump with happiness or vice versa cry because of deep sadness. Such people become the subject of ridicule. However, do not be ashamed of your emotions and, especially, ask for forgiveness for them. Laughter or grief is not a sign of bad taste. This, on the contrary, reveals a person from a positive perspective. After all, one who does not hide his emotions shows his sincerity and openness to the speaker or listener. And those who laugh at expressing their emotions disrespect their interlocutor.
9. Failures
All life consists of ups and downs. How many times have successful people created a new business on the ruins of the old, went bankrupt and completely lost hope of recovery? Failures can happen to everyone, so do not ask for forgiveness from colleagues, family or boss. Intelligent people will not blame a person for failure. It is better not to focus on what happened, but to independently analyze the reason for such an outcome. Then, identifying errors in past behavior, you should quickly correct the situation. In this case, others will understand that in front of them is a strong person, ready to rise after the defeat and rush to victory.
8. Clothing style
Everyone is trying to express his personality. Someone repaints their hair in an unusual color, someone changes their appearance through surgery or tattoos, and someone creates a unique image. But the unusual style is not a reason for apology, because what to wear is everyone's personal business. In addition, why ask for forgiveness if the individual feels comfortable in such clothes? It is better to show versatile development and education, then, as the proverb says, a person will be escorted by the mind, and not by appearance.
7. Beliefs
How many people - so many opinions, and this applies to different areas of life. Someone formed their own position, someone adopted the point of view of the author of the book, and someone did not touch such a question before. In any case, do not apologize if the beliefs of one do not correspond to the beliefs of the other. Everyone has the right to their own vision of a problem. In addition, it is more interesting to discuss your thoughts with someone who has already formed their own opinion on this matter. And if a dispute arises due to differences in points of view, the conversation will turn out more lively, and the interlocutors will enjoy communication. In addition, you can try to delve into the position of another.
6. Failure
Freedom of choice is the right that is given to a person from birth. From this moment, situations also arise in which one should be preferred over the other. It is not surprising that the choice of one person does not always coincide with the desires of another. This applies to both training and career, as well as personal life. An apology is unnecessary in this case, because the person has already abandoned the previously available opportunities. What is better to prove that an individual can independently be responsible for his actions. After all, the consequences can not always be predicted correctly. Otherwise, the freedom of choice will depreciate under the pressure of infantility, because the correctness of the refusal will not be confirmed by further actions.
5. Love
Feelings sometimes flare up imperceptibly. It seems that only yesterday this man was indifferent to you, and today you are ready to shine his whole life on him. According to scientists, attachment to another representative of human society is the result of chemical reactions in the body. Therefore, one should not be ashamed of one’s feelings or forgiveness of forgiveness for them. After all, everyone has the right to love and be loved. In addition, you need to give your lover time to think. Maybe he will understand that he also feels sympathy. Then a happy end awaits the couple. A premature apology can ruin everything, so it’s better to refrain.
4. your body
Nature endowed each with some peculiarities. Someone has too full or, on the contrary, an excessively thin body, someone has unusual pigmentation on the skin, and someone has a strange nose shape. All this makes the individual unlike others, so you should not be shy about your "zest". A polite person will not pay attention to the features of the body, and you should not apologize to a snapper. In any case, slander will await a person, if not for flaws, then for positive traits. Therefore, it is better to try to accept the body given by nature and respond to reproaches with kind words with a smile on your face.
3. Request for help
How often people find themselves in a difficult situation. At the time of cooking, the salt ended, on the way to work, because of the rush, the joint was dislocated, or the attackers stole the wallet. At the same time, it’s not a shame to ask relatives or strangers for help. There will certainly be a responsive person who is ready to support both morally and financially. Moreover, from a noble deed, both the helper and the saved will have a warm heart. But an unnecessary apology or excessive humiliation can ruin this positive moment. After all, someone who got into an awkward situation was helped because of sincere impulses, and requests for forgiveness diminish the significance of a good deed.
2. The actions of another person
How often can one see a person who has done wrong. The moral choice was made in favor of evil, so robbed people, broken other people's things or children abandoned to their fate appeared. Perhaps man was driven not by evil, but by misunderstanding or distraction. However, this does not justify the offender. In any case, do not apologize for other people's actions. A person should be responsible for what he has done and ask forgiveness for it. Neither friends nor acquaintances, nor relatives should blush due to the bad deed of the individual. Otherwise, the apology will be worthless, because the perpetrator of a deliberate or unconscious crime will not repent. Better to abstain at all than to say meaningless phrases.
1. True
Flattery and falsehood are companions of hypocrites. Neither reverence, nor self-interest, nor the desire to outwit can do without these two phenomena. However, the lack of truth leads to the formation of a false opinion, which adversely affects the future life of the deceived. Therefore, it is better to refrain from lying and express everything that is on the soul. No matter how offensive or bitter the truth is, it is better than intricate fiction. Therefore, you should not apologize for the sincerity or desire to convey the correct information. Let it be unpleasant in the first seconds, then the listener will have gratitude for the truth.